If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

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Lest I incur the attention and ire of both President Donald J. Trump and his new object of disgust and scorn, Ms. Omarosa Manigault-Newman, let me say if I don’t hear another word or tweet from either of them about who said what, when, and where, I will shout hallelujah!

After listening to their conversations the past few days, I suspect truth is probably somewhere out there in the middle struggling to be free. Unfortunately reason and truth keep getting drowned out by two individuals who are most likely more like each other than they care to admit.

I was a loyal fan of the 80s drama, Dallas, and when stars J.R. and Bobby Ewing went up against their much-despised rival, Cliff Barnes, we knew it wouldn’t be pretty. When Cliff showed up one night at the Cattleman’s Club where the Ewings congregated, one of them asked loudly “Who let that S.O.B. (no bleeps but spelled all the way out) in here?” I was shocked but the salty language wasn’t unexpected because their hatred was deep and lasting.

Nevertheless, this running feud between the president and his former employees and the insults and extreme name calling really must stop. The bickering, accusations, tell-all books, steady dribbles of this and that, and the foolishness–for lack of a better word, distracts us from REAL ISSUES like affordable housing, poverty, immigration, adequate and accessible mental and physical health care, veterans and their families, the environment, legitimate concerns that so desperately cry out for attention and solutions. And, these are grownups – is it too much to ask that they act like it?

I have never met President Trump or Ms. Manigault-Newman but I want to gently remind the both of them that they are role models whether they want to be or not. ENOUGH ALREADY! I fear if we don’t stop soon, this ugly, bitter train will roll swiftly down a track we can’t come back from. I taught my children the lessons I learned: before you speak, ask the following questions: 1) Is it true? 2) Is it going to improve the silence? 3) Is there a more diplomatic way to handle this situation?  4) Would you want your words repeated about you?

In this age of social media where everything is instant and immediate, things are faster and much more sophisticated than ever before, but the values and behaviors that we hold dear still matter and require us to be respectful, polite, courteous, gracious, sensitive, and kind to one another.

I expect more from both President Trump, Omarosa, and all those who want to lead and serve in public office. I’m hoping for authenticity, a willingness to collaborate, sincere work toward a goal that’s bigger than parties and partisan politics, and a genuine commitment to make the world better. Our children deserve better and we must insist that these leaders/servants 1) be more intentional and deliberative before they speak and tweet, 2) that they lead with honor, dignity and integrity, and 3) “get” that if/when they can’t say anything nice, they shouldn’t say anything at all.

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