“All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel mother. “Abraham Lincoln
I get a special treat this Mother’s Day because I’m spending the day with my beautiful mother. My 9-year-old granddaughter, Morgan, and I got in line early and made a reservation with 2G (code for great-grandmother) and we’ll attend church services with her and then find somewhere special for lunch. Morgan told her mother, Angela, that we get to hang out with 2G on Mother’s Day because it’s “tradition.”
This year, whether you’re a birth or adoptive mother, a father or grandparent raising children alone, an aunt or sister who has taken on mommy duties, a godmother, or president of a child’s fan club–however you got the honor, this big THANKS is for you.
South Carolina comedian Mike Goodwin is one of my favorites and Mike said most of his mom’s disciplinary sentences began with the phrase “Whatyounotgonedo,”(what you’re not going to do) as in “whatyounotgonedo is stand there with that refrigerator door open, running up my electric bill,” or “whatyounotgonedo is run in and out of this house slamming my door.” I laughed out loud because I’ve said wacky things like that too.
My great-aunt/ mother took great pride in all the whippings she gave me “when she was getting me for old and new.” She’d brag “Yes, and I made a woman out of you.” I assured her I would’ve gotten to womanhood without all those whippings and though I never thought I’d hear myself say it, I appreciate the lessons, long talks, and the role modeling of service, honor, civility, honesty and integrity. Thankfully my mothers lived out everything they taught.
As is my Graceful Mother’s Day tradition, I’m sharing six of my favorite lessons. Don’t forget to share yours on Twitter, Facebook and other platforms:
- How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. Love, honor and speak kind words/ affirmations to yourself. Say No more often so you can do more of what you enjoy and less of what you don’t;
- Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. It may not be wrong, it just may not be expedient to do so at this time;
- Work hard and have your own stuff. And, have your own money and give, save and spend some—in that order. Plan for the rainy days but live in color on the sunny days too. Have a place for everything and everything in its place.
- I loved this one even though I was ‘bout grown before I finally “got” it: “Every shut eye ain’t sleep and every goodbye ain’t gone.” Today I translate this to mean “stay woke” and pay attention. Things are not always what they seem and if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
- Get something in your head because knowledge is power and powerful.
- Finally, treasure your good name and if you can’t do what you promised, say so. When you give your best, it will always be enough. Don’t give up before you even try and don’t quit.
I pray your day is as wonderful as you are! For those of you who shared your sweet mothers/other mothers with me, I appreciate them and you more each day. My prayers and love go out to you if your mother has joined that great cloud of witnesses waiting for resurrection morning. Remember the lessons and live them gloriously! Be blessed and keep shining!